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1  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Out of touch with my love life on: August 15, 2007, 01:39:18 PM
Hello dear,

Thank you for this long and thoughtful reply. I will do my best to answer your question.

There are a couple of transits in your chart that might be moving all this energy you are expressing. Usually transits are great activation tools. These energy movers have a task: that is, to awaken us to deeper inner realities; to teach us the way to know ourselves better; to move the limitations that operate as obstacles to our evolution so we can have a more fulfilling life, a more creative and true-to-ourselves existence. Transits are not good nor bad. They are simply messengers and teachers. How ready and willing we are to listen to the message, to accept the lesson, will make the process either difficult, challenging, fun, and/or complicated. The more resistance we have to change and to self questioning the more 'painful' the transit might be. How do we make this process work for us? With awareness. By being conscious of our processes of change, and by accepting we do need to change, we open the door to something new. Often we are moved (or stuck) by the fear of the new; we would rather stay in the comfort zone of the known, instead of jumping out of repetition. The key to a fulfilling and creative life lies in the jump, in the ability to let go of something from the past, that hold us, preventing the experience of the new. The key here, is that the new is a part of us. Most of the time what we fear is the unknown in ourselves.

When i read your words in can feel the movement of the new coming from you. The awareness of your words, and your self questioning are, at this moment of your life, your tools and allies. If you listen long enough, you will find your ways.

When i first looked at your chart, the transit that first called my attention was Neptune sitting on your natal Moon. Today it is exact to the degree. This transit started in february 2007, and will continue to influence you until January 2008. As any transit involving outer planets, the experience feels big, transcendental, and overwhelming. The inner planet transits have an influence on our immediate and conscious reality, but with the outer planets we are in another realm, one that connects us with something larger than ourselves. Mysterious, overwhelming, fated, heavy, are some of the words that come to my mind.

With a Neptune transit we might add the word Confusing to the mix, yes, with capital letter, as we are talking about a transcendental confusion.

This transits points to a major change in your emotional and psychic l life. I think that through confusion and the blurring of your emotional self knowledge, Neptune is, in the long run, asking you to redefine and to become more aware of your emotional needs and emotional responses. It is through the absence of definition (a process that can feel quite chaotic and disturbing, as if the ground was lifted from under us) that we learn to redefine ourselves and our realities. To put it in another way, we might need chaos as a way of transforming the way we have ordered our world. We might need dissolution as a path to find new and more creative solutions. We might need to get lost without a clear vision or focus, to be able to recognize the possibility of new paths.

The Moon rules our subconscious mind, and with this transit, most of the confusion we experience comes from this hidden and mysterious part of our psyche. Neptune is far from the Sun, close to the edge of our galaxy. This work as a great metaphor; the Sun is our consciousness, and Neptune activates the Moon, the unconscious- the deep edge within ourselves. This is a process that cannot be reduced to rational considerations. Deep buried emotions come to the surface in a confused web of information that needs time and discernment to be digested. This information might be misinterpret and/or it might projected on the outside world.

All this is happening in the fifth house of your horoscope, adding context to this process.  From the fifth to the eighth we are in the relationship sector of the chart. A place where we step out of our self reflection to interact with 'the other'. The fifth house is the place where we first meet the other. It has a childlike quality that can be translated as wonder, playfulness, creativity, love and, yes, sex. It is the house of all that we enjoy doing, where we find pleasure, and by doing so, we find ourselves.

I feel this transit brings a deep need of merging, of swimming deeply in the vastness of love and pleasure, and i think that the only place this can be found is out of fantasy and idealization, and in the real. How do we get real? How do break the spells (misconceptions about ourselves, ambiguity about our desires, escapism, programmed ways of doing and feeling, resistances...etc.) that come from our subconscious mind; how do we open our eyes; how do get ride of our pink color glasses and instead of dreaming about our needs, we experience their fulfillment?

These are long life questions, but there is a way to make it happen, to make it work without getting lost in the foggy Neptune lesson. This is by feeling our body. The Moon rules the body. With such a strong fifth house my suggestion is art oriented. I think you have a great expressive outlet that would be an excellent tool for you. Art has the quality of bringing us into the here and now. Dancing, chanting, painting are excellent ways of channeling the Neptune creativity into a concrete experience, a body experience. Art makes the invisible, visible. If you work on your creativity, you will be using and getting in touch with deep creative energies that are strongly connected with your sexuality. You don't have to be an artist to do art, you don't have to be a dancer to move your body. I invite you to explore your body, to feel inside your body, and to listen to your  body.

Your natal Moon is in Aquarius, a clever, mental sign. This is a Moon that needs a lot of stimulus. It is very creative, original, inventive. It's a Moon that needs friendship, collaboration, groups, networks. All this is an excellent setting to develop an alternative creative activity; one that will nurture you. This will bring much satisfaction to your life, taking some stress off your relationship. 

Another important transit that might have been influencing this period of your life is Pluto squaring your Ascendant. This influence started at the end of December 2006 and will last until October 2008. As with any of the slow outer planets transits, the first stages of the period feels more intense and stressing, and, as the energy evolves, we start to assimilate the change, and to grow within the lesson. From your writing, i gather that you are entering the acceptance phase, which is the one that will allow you to work with the transit, instead of resisting it.

Pluto square the Ascendant is about relationships, especially close ones, especially the one with your partner. Many invisible patterns might come into the surface during this transit. The unseen and the unsaid come out. Conflicts, wounds, power trips, control needs, irrational behavior, hidden desires, fears, possessiveness, feelings of weakness, guilt, repression, manipulations, jealousy, all these might be part of the picture. These are heavy to handle energies, and as you can see, they are strongly connected with the unconscious world. It seems to me that a lot of clearing is happening in your relationship, and as i said before, the key to Pluto is to allow the change to happen. For this we need to surrender and to let go of anything we might think we needed. The key is not to take our needs for granted, as change and transformation might show us that they were simple defense mechanisms, and limitations to our Soul's growth. Pluto asks us to take care of our Soul's needs, and in order to do this we have to let go of the control we think we might have.

The shadow can be frightening, but what we need to ask is what is hidden there, in the shadows? What is trying to express itself?

My opinion is that we usually will find a wound deeply hidden in our unconscious, a wound that have been neglected and has grown into repressed and distorted presence in our psyche. As a young woman that you are, i strongly suggest you start working on your shadow. You'll find that by being able to cross through this zone of your Self, your will be freeing a lot of creative power, a lot of energy that needs expression. Pluto teaches us that our power is waiting for us right behind the shadows; if not accepted it can be disruptive, if not destructive. It is a journey.

You are soon entering your Saturn Return, an important transit that will bring structure to this process. You are becoming a woman and you are being invited by these teachers to mature, to live behind behaviors that are close to childhood and parental influence, to enter the realm of adulthood. Your natal Saturn is in the twelfth house. It seems to me that you will have the opportunity to dig into some of your past, into your family history, into your early memories to find some clues on what needs to be recognize and release. You already stared.

My take is this is strongly associated to your father. If in some way your father has been absent, or there has been a lack of commitment, or a conflicting relationship, you will be invited to heal this through consciously seen how this early bond (or the lack of it) is influencing your life in the present. Regarding this, there is a very good book that i strongly suggest you read. 'The Wounded Woman (how to heal the relationship father-daughter)', written by Linda Schierse Leonard. She is a Junguian analyst who specializes in the Feminine.

The twelfth house is associated with prenatal information. It is interesting that you are already digging into the past to find some answers connected to what is happening in the present. Prenatal traumas, and, for that matter, all memories that happen before we learn to speak are very difficult to contact and to release. This is not something that we can access through words and rationalization, nor something that can be worked out on a conventional therapy. The healing process needs to happen on the unconscious and body level. Your chart points to a powerful mind, and an immense capacity to understand and assimilate difficult information. You have a very strong Scorpio signature in your chart (Venus, Sun and Uranus in conjunction), and your Pluto is in trine to your Moon. You do not fear the depths. The thing is where to take the swim. From your chart i get a sense that there is an inner struggle between your emotions and your mind, and this reinforces my previous suggestion to you : body work. Here, i add the possibility of you working on some alternative therapies that work with breathing (rebirthing, for example); or therapies where you get in contact with your cellular memory (Ericksonian hipnosis, for example).

Before i close this long reply, i'd like give you my personal answer to these questions: 

How can you follow the call of the wild when you are with one person? Someone you absolutely want to be with?

What first comes to my mind is 'it takes two to tango'. So, yes the wild can be part of a relationship, if shared on the same ground. I personally do not see the wild as only being something that involves other relationships. I believe two persons can share 'the wild'. This has to do with, first, what is our personal definition of 'the wild', and two, limits.

I associate wild with freedom. I honor my wild side by being true to my self and my desires; then i make the necessary choices based on the limits i choose to respect. I might choose a monogamous relationship that puts limits to a more open sexual and love life, but that allows me to experience the deep levels of intimacy that two persons can share. I might then choose to channel my needs of diversity through other expressive channels. I might have a lots of friends, that i do not share with my partner, that give me a sense of freedom and individuality; just to give you an example.

In another context i might need to experience the openness and then change the limits of the relationships. I would then need to take into account my partner's needs and see if they fit with mine, if not then, i am confronted with new choices. The key here, is that relationships are not static, they can move, evolve, grow, change. This is all so relative and personal!

Can you reconcile being true to yourself and being in a relationship? There must be a way!

I have very few duties imposed on myself. I personally move in a mutable existence in which i have learned to honor change, but, i do respect one powerful duty: to be true to myself, no matter what, and ESPECIALLY in my relationships. This questions for me is the chore of the work you are doing with Pluto. If you can't be true to yourself with 'the other', you might need to reconsider the relationship. You might need to voice these questions out, and open the door for change. The being-true-to-oneself process entails taking conscious account of the lies and masks we have accumulated; how we have mold ourselves into being someone else so we are loved and accepted. This is a tricky transaction that has more costs than benefits in the long run. Again, Pluto squaring the ascendant is putting pressure here, as the ascendant rules the role we assume. Take a look at the thread about Pluto crossing the ascendant, and you might get a picture.

I hope this has been helpful, and that you can gather some clues and tools to move on in this new territory. I thank you again for you generous contribution to this space. Your story, is everybody's, and i am sure many persons benefit from this exchange.

Please let us know is any of this rings a bell,

I wish you the best,

Sincerely

Paloma
2  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Out of touch with my love life on: August 15, 2007, 01:37:53 PM
Here is the answer from M:

Hello, thanks so much for your reply and for the thought you'd given to what I wrote. This is probably always the case, but as soon as I'd written the email I felt something lift, so you're right even just voicing things makes them feel better. I've thought about the questions you asked, and tried to answer them so here goes...

When you were talking about fear, I feel like I'm carrying round some strange unidentifiable fear of something related to sex. Its very hard to put in words because its deeply buried, but has also always been with me. Its nothing to do with my lovely boyfriend, he's just the one its playing out with (ive felt this in all my relationships), and I think it's because I feel so secure with him that this is coming to light. I recently found out I was concieved during a time when my mother and father werent speaking, and there was a lot of anger and simmering feeling, for months before and after. Also growing up bodies, sex,and anything like that was embarrassing and 'not good', and looking at it now I guess I can see that I certainly wasn't encouraged to feel proud or even acknoweldge that side of me. I dont know if that would have anything to do with it - I'm a great believer in you make your own life so don't want to pin this on someone else. The best way to describe this fear is heavy and very sad. I try and live my life light and carefree because it feels good, and this isn't carefree and light. But like I said just writing to you shifted things and I've moved out of it alot. I really think you get more of what you focus on, so I just stopped feeling it and remembered other feelings I've had - light happy ones, and got in that space, and things feel much better now. I know that's not addressing this issue, but it puts me in a much more good-feeling place to sort it out.

The communication thing actually started to solve itself too, - and yes I can see that they are connected, and relfect eachother. Were able to talk more honesly without this toxic wall coming down. This made me feel much better again. It feels like the toxicness has evaporated. Its like cement which is poured over you and sets, now theres a way to dissolve it. For all this talk of lightness though I'm a water sign and I feel like 'm not giving the emotion side of me (which is huge) a proper airing or letting it see the light of day. My boyfriend and I don't really operate on the emotional level, although I know he cares about me and loves me alot, and vice versa. I know I've got to find a way to bring it out, and I will. Its all choices I've made, so I can make new ones.

The thing you said about Venus and courtly love really jumped out. I used to not like romance and think it was phoney, but my boyfriend has a touch of the libras so I became confined I guess by this notion of romantic femaless - self inflicted though because I know I try and morph into what I think is wanted. But recently I've been acknowledging the other side so to speak and it feels good, and has helped lighten things up again. I guess its about being true to yourself which I wasn't always.

When you talked about the moon and the body it immediately made me think of my own, and for some odd reason I thought "Well I feel wounded, obviously". In the past I've stayed with boyfriends when I wanted it to be over, and buried my feelings. I think this has got something to do with it, not sure what.

Finally pluto and keeping things growing and alive - well thats what I aspire to, but recently I've really been wondering how you reconcile freedom (which is great and keeps people alive) and relationships/marriage. I know Eric's take on open, honest relationships, but I can't see how that would actually work in real life, especially if you don't enter into it like that at the start. It seems to be marriage is often the beginning of the end, with the woman frustrated and sacrificing parts of herself. How can you follow the call of the wild when you are with one person? Someone you absolutely want to be with? Can you reconcile being true to yourself and being in a relationship? There must be a way! (I'm going to read that book you suggested on the train home).

I would love to know if there's anything in my chart that might be encouraging these ways of acting/thinking/feeling that feel ingrained, and know how to overcome them. I want to feel free and powerful and peaceful - in the nicest possible way! Thanks again for your really helpful reply, I really appreciate you thinking about this and sharing your ideas (and wisdom!) with me.

PS if you reply to this, would it be possible not to publish my chart even if you talk about what's in it? Sorry for the secretiveness. And sorry this email is so long and 'me me me'.

Have a lovely weekend x
3  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Does karma play a role in the casting of an astrological forecast on: August 13, 2007, 09:09:42 AM
Hello Rich,

Some astrologers will cast a horary chart for and before a consultation.

A horary chart is a chart based on an event, or a question in particular. For example, 'is June a good date to marry my boyfriend'? 'Will i be promoted in the next year'? 'Will my cat come back home'? The chart is casted for the time the question was/is formulated to the astrologer, and he/she will be able to look at the chart and, as in an oracle, get the picture surrounding the question asked.

The question is ruled by the ascendant, the matter of the question is found in the house that rules the question (if marriage the 7th, if promotion the 10th, if pet, the 6th, for example). One has to look at the ruler of the question, it's aspects and locations; plus, and especially the Moon; is the Moon favorable to the matter of the question is the Moon growing, new, full? etc.

This system is pretty old. Imagine the days when the astrologer was in a battle field and was called before a battle by the king; he would ask how the battle would go, and the astrologer would look at the sky and draw the position of the planets on the ground, and would say what was written in the stars.

So, some astrologers will cast a chart for the moment a client is having a reading. Why? What is the purpose of this practice?

Barbara Hand, in her book, 'Chiron: Rainbow Bridge Between the Inner and Outer Planets' advices the use of this practice to measure the level of receptivity the client will bring to the reading; that is, how deep, healing, transforming, useful, conflicting, the meeting of the client and his/her chart can be. It's a good way of establishing a responsible ground for the astrologer's work and message to the client.

So, to answer your question, i can't say it is karma playing it's part, but i can assure you there is a chart of the reading, as there is a chart for every second of the infinite time of the universe. The stars are always working.  And if there is chart for the reading, there is a story.

I hope this was useful to you.

Sincerely,

Paloma

4  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Does karma play a role in the casting of an astrological forecast on: August 13, 2007, 09:01:43 AM
I have paid for a yearly forecast from a reputable astrologer and, objectively speaking, the forecast does not match the reality. This is especially true since the forecaster says that only I will understand the message in the writings.  Additionally, I trusted in what I read and took actions based on it.  I have no regrets but I'm not so sure about purchasing any more forecasts - they are somewhat inaccurate.
 
So I have a question: Does karma play a role in the casting of an astrological forecast and if so, does it appear in a person's chart and should the astrologer take it into consideration?
5  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Out of touch with my love life on: August 08, 2007, 02:39:16 PM
Hello Dear,

I want to start saying that it is brave of you to voice out your situation, and that by doing so you are claiming your power. By putting words to difficult to express feelings you are making the first step toward finding you way to solve whatever is causing you pain. Words are great tools to measure what is happening behind them, what is going on in our mind and our emotions; and to ask, what is the driving force behind the words we use? Words can betray issues that are not mentioned or described by them; words have energy, power, they can wound or heal. Silence too, for that matter.

So, yes you are right, what you are voicing out here as a problem, involves you and your partner; and yes, i believe you will, at some point, need to solve this by opening the communication channels with your him. You will need to be able to be open with him so you can express yourself with freedom, to be able to say what is in your mind, body and heart; as well as to listen to what he has to say about his feelings and thoughts.

I am going to ask you some questions; i hope these will allow you to investigate within yourself, and see if you can connect with the emotions underlying your words.

You say, 'i feel seriously, dangerously out of touch with my love life'; there is a lot of emotion within the word dangerously. Seriousness is one thing, and danger is another. I ask, what is the danger? Behind danger we might have attack, aggression, loss of something, and behind these, we have fear. I ask you what do you fear? What do you fear loosing? What do you feel might, or not, happen to you?

When you say, 'there are other things i am trying to work on between us', i ask, is there anyway that these other things might be connected with, one, the lack of sexual encounters and the lack of pleasure, and two, the lack of communication you have expressed? When there is too much 'lacks' we are in a difficult territory; we are talking about the absence of something vital for us, and usually the absence of what we need brings frustration, a very toxic energy, especially when it is floating behind silence, especially when frustration is shared in silence. Usually what appears to be an issue in a relationship, is really a symptom of something deeper, and, that deeper level might make visible the fact that things are more connected than they appear to be. And i add, sex is a deep - a core- issue. I ask you to interrogate yourself and see if you are making the right investment by postponing the discussion of one issue for another.

'I used to really love my love life and felt in control- now I don't feel in control, don't feel proud or happy about myself, and feel powerless.' Lack of control make us feel vulnerable and helpless. The need to control often comes as a protective reaction against change, evolution and transformation, in other words, growth. When we feel the lack of control, we feel that something overpower us, that something is stronger than us; when this happens we start to feel unsafe, being out of our rigid and established way of doing and living, the way we are used to. Control makes me think of something tight, rigid, organized, with rules, do's and don'ts. And when i think of these, i can't stop thinking about parental authority, controlling every inch of a childhood time and space, body and soul; and i ask, is there a possibility that you might come from a severe and/or repressed upbringing, one in which your needs were not taken into account, one in which your true nature was domesticated and controlled into tight models of behavior?

We don't need to portray our parents as being evil or negative; they might have done what it was right for us, with the best of intentions at heart, and with love; what i am saying is not contradictory with this.  But we do need to evaluate the level of repression our true nature has been exposed to, so we can have an idea at the level of control we are used to have, and that we keep needing to have, in order to feel safe. Saying this to you, a phrase popped up in my mind: 'the call of the wild' and this made me think of a book called 'Women who run with the wolves', you'll find it here:
http://www.amazon.com/Women-Wolves-Clarissa-Pinkola-Estes/dp/0345409876. A book every woman must, at some point of her lifetime, read.

And  with this we are getting at what i really want to get to, the core of your question: Your Woman.

First i want you to know that it is a common thing to stop having sex. You are not the first couple, nor the last one, going through this phase. This is important, because one characteristic of this subject is that it is tabu. You don't go around saying that you don't have sex with your partner, it's a silent topic, and that is why i first congratulated you, because you are taking a step out of the tabu zone into the open, and that is not only great for you, but for all of us.

Before looking at your chart, and because Venus is retrograding (a good time for this kind of questions), my take was this is a Venus story. A Venus story it is a story about the expression of our feminine nature; the expression of our needs, desires, and, our search for pleasure, and satisfaction. Venus is a Goddess of sex, not only love. And Venus is a channel for a collective energy that has been repressed and controlled, by being transformed into romance and courtly love, keeping it's more powerful, passionate and wildest nature hidden and inaccessible, if not tabu.  Usually when we stop having pleasure and fun during sexual exchanges, we are having 'the Venus energy' wanting to express itself, and at the same time, the repressed reaction to keep our deeper and wildest desires at bay. It's like a short circuit. When this happens fear is at play. We fear the wild unrecognized part of ourselves; we fear our desires; we fear 'the other' reaction to our desires; we fear 'the other' desires; we fear judgment; we judge.

When talking about relationships, the Moon will point out at our nurturing needs; that is, how were we nurtured as infants, who was the nurturing parent in our life, and how, as adults, we seek to return to that primal sensation. The Moon will say, 'i need you to express your love verbally to me', or 'i need you to touch me, often', or 'i need to have freedom and space'. The sign and the angles of our Moon will tell us this story , and of course, how it is played out in our relationships. This is a huge territory that involves need, lacks, frustration, satisfaction, or in-satisfaction, hunger. And, even if the Moon is not sexual by itself, it does play out strongly in our sexual life, as it rules our emotions, our bodies and our subconscious mind.

Pluto in relationships is the one that allow us to grow with the other; by growing i imply to be able to evolve, to move on, to change, with the other, in the company of the other. Pluto teaches us to surrender control, and the need to have a fixed established way of relating in which we need to feel safe; it teaches us to move into a more open and vast territory, the one that allows the relationship to be different, to be shifted, to be alive. This can feel quite unsettling, and even dangerous at some times. Pluto is strongly connected with Venus.  Both have something  to do with the passionate and powerful expression of our deeper sexual nature, our deepest desires. Pluto adds to the mix the feeling of death, of dying in order to grow; the need to let go of something in order to allow the new to come in.

I would like to be able to convey to you the idea that the 'problem' you are having with your love and sexual life, is not such; on the contrary, it can be quite positive. I want to propose to you the possibility of looking at your situation as an opportunity (lets call it a creative crisis) that can bring growth and transformation in your life, and that can open the door to a more fulfilling and deeper connection -sexual and emotional- with your partner. I propose to you to shift you attitude and views about how things should be, and accept the way things are, with openness, allowing them to lead you to a different scenario. All forms of crisis are opportunities to reach a deeper level of connection with our soul, our essence, our self. Do not force yourself to act as you used to. Use the pause to listen to yourself, to reach deeper inside you. Use the pause with the constructive awareness that your know some vital change is happening. Welcome it.

I strongly believe that you need to communicate with your partner to be able to meet and encounter each other. You need to be able to say, together, 'we are going through something, we are together in this, lets find our way out, together'. You need to be, both, living this on the same page; not each one in silence imagining and waiting without  knowing how the other is feeling or thinking. I strongly suggest these things as the way for you to grow together. If you do this, you'll both meet on 'the other side' of the process knowing more about each other, and this might give you a deeper level of connection and intimacy that will open new doors to your sexual life. If you seem to be unable to do this on your own, a strongly suggest to look for some professional help, so you can both express yourselves in a safe environment, and start this process.

I also think you might want to explore your parental models of nurturing and see how these are played out with your partner. You might want to get in touch with your emotional needs, that is, what nurtures you, in order to be able to reach to your sexual needs - what pleases you.  As i mentioned before, i think you need to empower your woman so you can expose freely your needs and desires in the relationship. For this you might want and need to get in touch with subconscious memories and patterns that govern your emotional life not allowing growth to happen.

By bringing this issue here in the open and asking for help, i can hear the voice of you woman and her need to be listened to and taken care of. Nobody can do this for you. This is a personal task. But, you can include others in the process, and believe me, it will make the journey much more satisfactory and productive.

I thank you for your questions. I believe they are quite relevant for all of us, and it has given me the opportunity to articulate important thoughts connected with Venus. This retrograde motion is asking for some deep reflections and attention on how we relate, not only to others, but, and, especially to ourselves. It invite us to look deep inside to find our passion and desire, and from there to share it.

Please, let us know your thoughts about this. I'd love to keep this discussion going, and if necessary move it into the astrological chart.

Sincerely,

Paloma
6  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Out of touch with my love life on: August 08, 2007, 02:32:51 PM
Hi, I wanted to ask a question but I don't want my name, birth date or chart details printed on ASR because its so personal. I don't really know exactly the right question to ask because I don't know what answer I'm looking for, but if you can help at all that would be so great. I feel seriously, dangerously out of touch with my love life. I've got a great boyfriend but we've just got into the habit of not having sex, and when we do it usually hurts so I'm not really enjoying it, which is depressing. (I've been to the doctor, there's nothing wrong physically). And he picks up on this, and feels bad, but doesnt do or say anything to acknowledge it so it goes unspoken, and we make love less and less. I know youre thinking talk to him, but he's so sensitive and there are other things I'm trying to work on between us, - he's very sulky and incredibly sensitive. I know he sounds terrible in this email but trust me he's not. I used to really love my love life and felt in control - now I don't feel in control, don't feel proud or happy about myself, and feel powerless. And its driving a wedge between us - were both young, so how long can we go on like this - he can't be happy with it the way it is.

7  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Pluto Crossing the Ascendant... on: August 07, 2007, 08:21:09 AM
Hello Karen,

Thank you for your answer. It is always nice to have feedback from readers, and especially to have an exchange. It feels less like a monologue and more like a conversation.

The first house is, amongst other things, what makes you distinct from others. It is the place in the chart where we differentiate ourselves, where we look for our individuality, and what we call the process of individuation. The individuation process is a term created by Carl Gustav Jung; it describes the process of becoming aware of oneself, the way to discover one
8  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Pluto Crossing the Ascendant... on: August 07, 2007, 08:19:59 AM
Hola Paloma,
 

 
Oh yes, what you've written has rung a bell.  I've already begun trying to dissect everything.  You are very perceptive.
 
I have indeed been feeling quite moved for the past months.  Pluto has brought literal death in my life...first my father in March, then my beloved cat (my companion for 16 years) in April.  March's eclipses were very powerful for me, especially the lunar.  I have gone through so much since 2001 (most of it on my own) and I am not the same person I was - growth is profound but not usually surrounded by sunshine and roses.   
 
I only know the basics about Chiron and even less about intercepted planets - I guess it will be my new project.  Yes, the feeling of a strong authority connected with leadership and management being hidden is true, yet I know it's there.     
 
I am looking forward to some outer change in my life as much of the change in the last 5 years has been deeply inner change...much of it so deep I cannot adequately express it in words.  Is that because Pluto has been in my 12th house?  Does the 1st house signal outer change?
 
Thank-you for your interest and insight Paloma,
Karen
9  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Doubting my own intuition... on: July 17, 2007, 07:56:05 AM
Hi Paloma,


Thanks so much for your answer!  It gave me a lot to think about. I re read my question, and it seemed so confusing!  I am surprised, and grateful, that you understood what i was talking about.  I especially liked the phrases you used about "learning to live with uneasiness" and "using uncomfortable moments in our favor"... it's definetely part of being human... i see it in my heros and the people i love the most, so maybe as i grow i will see this in myself.
I have read some things about Saturn returns, and a friend of mine who is interested in astrology talks to me about it.  I will look up more on the forum.

Thanks!  I wish you the best, too.

-Elliott
10  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Doubting my own intuition... on: July 16, 2007, 09:07:23 AM
http://planetwaves.net/chart.php?c=elliot

Dear Elliot,

Thank you for your question. I understand what you are going through, and i hope that my words here will be good for you the read.

You say in your letter that you are not asking about your chart. I was tempted to answer your question without taking a look at your planets; it seems to me that you are asking for advice, a space to share, some company in your confusion, and/or just the opportunity to voice out your feelings. And, i will give you my non astrological opinion; but, my intuition is telling me something else. Without even looking at your date of birth, i was thinking this sounds like Saturn with some Neptune in the mix. Well, your are going through your Saturn return, and that in the astro-world, not only it brings out a reality check through some form of crisis, but this crisis can bring out long held feelings of anguish, fear and anxiety to the surface; and these feelings, of course, spell the word depression.

One thing is to be depressive, another to have episodes of depression in punctual moments of our life, and, another is to be diagnosed bipolar. It is great that you are doing therapy, and i strongly suggest you follow your doctor's advice. Self knowledge and self interrogation can lead us into self diagnose, and who in this era is not consulting the internet with their symtoms? It is part of our times; but i strongly advice you not to call yourself bipolar without a professional back up.

That said, i ask, who is not ill? Is there a human being that is one hundred percent emotionally and mentally healthy?

I want to introduce you to the idea that life is about being able to recognize and empower the healthy part of our personality in a way that make us conscious of our less healthy ones. I want to introduce you to the idea that we are not our illness, we are not our diseases, and the fact that you are able to position yourself as an observer of yourself, that you are able to detach yourself from what you are going through and explain it here, is a solid proof that you are something else beyond a diagnose.  And the fact that you are taking care of yourself going to a therapist, also tells me that you are responsibly trying to be better and to get better. You are in charge.

Have i, as an astrologer, any experience with the feelings you describe?

I used to, especially around your age; i suffered from periods of depression, and i also had the sensation of shifting from over enthusiasm to feelings of being beaten and feeling low and down. Sometimes these feelings where like the ones you describe; and even at some point i though, well i must be ill, there must be some sort of 'mental or emotional disorder' that might explain this sense of unease; that might, at the end, explain myself to myself.

Now, with time (and therapy) i realize that having a diagnose of any kind would have been a good option to evade taking responsibility for my feelings. If my symptoms were part of an illness, then i could lay back and say, well, i am what i am because i am ill, it is not 'my' fault, i am a victim of my genes.

I wasn't ill, at all. At that time i just lacked the tools on how to understand myself. My sensation is that i was blind from the inside out, and that by engaging into the process of learning about my feeling and thinking patterns i became aware of what needed to be changed in order to feel better. The rewarding part of this process was to recognize how my 'outer' reality followed the inner changes i was experiencing.  I felt nurtured and empowered by the positive reflections of my inner findings into my everyday reality. My life changed for the better.

This process has to do with two things: one, the search for interior growth, and two, learning to live with the sense of uneasiness that is inherent of living, of being human. What i am trying to say, is that this process never ends, and that sometimes we feel low, and others really lost, or confused, but that understanding how we react and decide around these times, allow us to use the 'uncomfortable' moments in our favor, that is to grow.

We live in societies which systems are selling us everlasting happiness; we are constantly confronted to dreams that are higher than our reality; with values, desires and goals that created for us. We have high expectation coming from our families, our peers; we want to participate, achieve, succeed but life's challenges, obstacles, and painful moments, seem to put these dreams down, to 'sabotage' the happiness and well being we all deserve and want.

The process of self growth allows us to connect to our deepest desires, to learn what makes us really happy and to go for our dreams; nobody else but ours. It also gives us strength of purpose, patience, commitment, and the ability to go through difficult times without sinking. Self knowledge allows us to trust ourselves, to listen to our inner voice and to act by consciously making choices that are in harmony with our goals.

When i read 'doubting my own intuition' , what i understand is that there is a confusion regarding your relationship to yourself, Elliot. A confusion regarding your place in the world, your needs, your talents and goals in life. And i also feel that the depressive moments you go through are voicing the deep end of your self, asking for help, wanting to be seeing and taken care of; needing an outlet to be expressed.

Our astrological chart is a map, a guide that is very useful to learn more about ourselves. It represents our potential life. We can see our strengths and weaknesses; we can see the the trying and challenging times that await us, as well as the opportunities.

I took a look at your chart, Elliot, and you are going through a very important moment in your life. A moment of growth and maturity. It feels challenging, because growing pains are. Life is asking you to leave behind a way of being, to adjust, and to move to another phase in which you'll have more choices and more responsibilities.

This is the year of your Saturn return. This transit has been covered extensively on Planet Waves and here at Astrology Secrets Revealed forum. I strongly suggest you research it and get familiar with it. Your Saturn return has been particularly challenging as it has been colored by the Saturn Neptune opposition. I think than one way of describing this opposition would fit the definition of feeling bipolar. I also suggest you research the meanings of Neptune. By doing so you will gain in understanding about what you've been through and the way you feel.

My advice to you is to keep working with your therapist; you are restructuring yourself. Soon enough you will start to feel the positive changes in a tangible form. Keep gaining confidence and self trust. Soon you'll be able to listen to your intuition and discern what is real from what is fantasy.

Saturn is heading toward your Ascendant and will conjunct you Sun. This is a great opportunity to redefine may many things in life, especially your mission and role. This is hard work and good news.

I wish all the best!

Sincerely,

Paloma
11  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Doubting my own intuition... on: July 16, 2007, 09:05:26 AM
Hi. 

I've been reading planetwaves horoscopes for awhile.  I'm not well-versed in astrology, but it moves me to read something helpful.

I had problems with depression over the winter and saw a therapist.  I also occasionally see things and when i look into this on the internet, it's very likely that I am bipolar.  I have asked my therapist this, and they said i could have an assessment if I wanted, but that I seem to be able to manage my life okay right now.  (that is... after going to talk therapy. I was in some deep waters over the winter)

I have always loved journaling about dreams and coincidences and such, but sometimes it seems to go too far.  I obsess over something, and then I dream about it, and I think that the dream has some special message for me.  I do this enough, and have for the past few years, that loved ones feel distant from me because I am off on my own planet, thinking that some favorite dead celebrity has a message for me. 

So I have been told this behavior is common in people who have bipolar disorder.  I look through my journals and see how often it is followed by feeling let down and really depressed.  When I hear that this part of me might not be anything special, but instead an illness, i'm sad.

Today, I read my PW horoscope and it greatly corresponded to something going on in my life, about a new friend.  For me, what it corresponds to in my life is imaginary and impossible.  I fantasize too much. But the coincidence inspires me.  And yet, this feeling could be just part of an illness (if i have one... i know, i shouldn't get ahead of myself).  How would i act on that?

So you, as an astrologer, have any experience with these feelings? 

sincerely,
Elliott
12  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: How do i make money out of what i love doing... on: July 16, 2007, 06:50:35 AM
Sean's answer to Cristina:

To Cristina,

I cannot thank you enough for your words of wisdom.

First of all, the astrological insight on my chart was illuminating and  although I already know a bit about astrology, you most definitely helped me  view my chart with greater depth and perspective. Because of the wider orbs  with Neptune, I had not noticed how Saturn was the apex of a T-square with  Venus and Neptune in a wide opposition. You really hit the jackpot by reminding me how much only perseverence and hard work could bring me to the quality levels I expect of myself (which are pretty high). You are right. It's much too easy to think of reasons why I shouldn't make a living out of  music. But in the end, I just know that music is part of my calling. A denial of that will make me feel incomplete.

You are also SO right about my impatience (Mars-Uranus opposition). Musical inspiration comes like lightning flashes for me. But ACTUALIZING my ideas and inspiration is the challenging part. Once I've got some good  musical material (which comes easily), it is incredibly hard for me to develop the material to a satisfying level of efficency and coherence. I often end up very frustrated and that causes me to easily fall into laziness  patterns. Laziness caused by fear of failure. But when I do manage to get out of the lazy pattern and really start working, I always surprise myself by the level of quality I can achieve, but you are right, it always comes after hard work and especially, patience.

Above all, it's your common sense that really shook me up in a positive way.  In the end, I guess what I really needed was a good old reality check  (Saturn!). I would NOT be happy if music simply became a Sunday hobby. I  would NOT be happy if I did not have the time to develop my talent and  become better at it. Loads of money would NOT make me happy if I didn't feel accomplished musically. The straightforward questions you asked me helped me  get out of a foggy mix of denial and fear.

I happened to read your answer to my question right after getting some amazing feedback for musical work I've been composing for a video game lately. The guys I'm working with were delighted by the work I did so all I  can say is that I feel that everything seems to fit perfectly.

So thanks again for your kind and insightful response. It helped me clear up my reflection and it especially gave me some confidence that I am on the right track.

Sean
13  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Pluto Crossing the Ascendant... on: July 13, 2007, 02:43:58 PM
Hello Karen,
 

I would like to add my two cents to the discussion.

For the past months you must have been feeling quite moved, right?  Pluto has been on the forward motion over your ascendant and then retrograding back to the 12th house, to, soon, resume it's forward motion to  conjunct your ascendant again, and then move ahead into new territory. This back and forth motion over your ascendant can be described as a long lesson to go through; my way of approaching this, is to live it as an opportunity, as a chance of really taking advantage of the message, lesson, feeling, Pluto is conveying.

I associate your transit with the word, and the process, of initiation; a rite of passage, a threshold: some sort of transformational place within yourself that has deep implication in the way you will be projecting yourself into the world. Why the word initiation? Because it implies a process in which you get to know something about yourself that you didn't know before, and because getting this knowledge involves confronting your deepest fears. Pluto is associated with death, that we know, but who and what is dying? What part of yourself was/ is being left behind in order to tap into the other side of death: rebirth?

This new knowledge is connected with power. Pluto crossing the ascendant is saying you have power, and others will notice.

Your first house starts at the 27th degree of Saggitarius, meaning that when Pluto will ingress in Capricorn it will have a long way to go into this house.

The interesting part about your chart is that Capricorn is intercepted (http://www.planetwaves.net/cainer/archive/003540.php). So, Pluto's transit through your first house will end when it will be halfway through the sign of  Aquarius. I can assure you, when this will happen, the world won't be as we know it;  and it seems to me, that you have an important role to perform into this transformational era we all are going through. This is what an initiation is about: it gives you the self knowledge and inner power to perform your life purpose.

Pluto can be rough if we resist change by trying to control our destiny, but it is so rewarding (as you say) when we allow ourselves to be molded and peeled into what we are meant to be. Surrender is the word.

My image for you is the butterfly. Use it. Dig it's meaning, and you will get a sense of what this threshold from the 12th house to the first is about when in Pluto's hands.

I have two things to add.

One, is that Capricorn intercepted in your first house has the feeling of a strong  authority connected with  leadership and management, and that this talent, to put a name to it, is sort of hidden, weak, not visible, not upfront. Maybe you go through it as a lack of confidence, or as being second to your boss when you are really the boss, or as working as the power behind the throne, or just feeling uneasy with your authority. My advice is, get ready; as Pluto entering Capricorn next year, will unveil this sector of your chart. You will feel it, and with time build a new identity based on it.

Second, is that you have Chiron in the first degree of Aries, in the second house. The second house is a place of inner commitment on how we value ourselves, and as a consequence, on how we value what we have, do, others, etc. This could be called self worth.

When Pluto will ingress Capricorn, it will square you natal Chiron. I think it is important you start doing some preparation for this transit. Read about Chiron in Planet Waves. Eric has done extensive writing about this Centaur. There is something here connected to a wounding of your self worth that will be put into the open so you can bring some consciousness to it, heal it, and move on. You are heading toward a master class, coached by the master teachers of the zodiac: Pluto and Chiron. I am not saying it's going to be an easy ride; but you have gone through your Pluto square Pluto, Pluto square Sun, Pluto double crossing your ascendant, and therefore i feel pretty confident that you have the tools to go through this lesson.

I would love to hear from you; let us know if this rings a bell, if it is helpful or not...

Have a good one!


Sincerely,

Paloma
14  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Dream Question on: June 14, 2007, 10:45:12 AM
Martina adds :

Just wanted to let you know that crecida- ( sounds just like cressida) from the verb crecer in Spanish means "grown" ...as in I have grown, or developed.

Maybe this helps in the interpretation.

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I missed that one! and my first language is spanish. Thank you, Martina!

Paloma
15  Astrology Questions and Answers / Astrology Questions and Answers / Re: Dream Question on: May 23, 2007, 12:26:47 PM
Dear Jamie,

Thank you for this question.

I am not a dream specialist, nor a dream interpreter; but i am a dreamer, a heavy dreamer! and because i dream so much, i have learned to work with my dreams and to pay attention. Paying attention means following the feeling, curiosity, sensation we have about a dream, and from there to follow the lead to see where it takes us. There are many books on the market that proposes different methods of how to follow a dream's lead. I will recommend one that proved to be very helpful in understanding the deep language of my dreams:

http://www.timeless.org/timeless_dreams.html

Freud said we had a dream knitter who sleeps during the day, and works all night in our subconscious world. The language of this dream builder is symbolic, that is he uses colors, object, subjects, actions, forms, words, stories, in a symbolic form, not a literal one. It means then, that our conscious mind needs to be 'trained' or be familiar with symbolic meaning. The 'interpretation' of a dream's meaning, that is the decoding of it's symbolic communication is an art. That is why dream interpretation is usually at the core of a good psychotherapy. When a patient brings a dream to be worked with to the therapist, he or she, is bringing material that comes from the heart of the mind, unprocessed by the conscious mind, therefore free of defensive tricks, hidings, and fears. Freud also said that the first dream a client shares in therapy is, and will be, the core dream of all the work that will come. He said that during the therapeutical process our dream knitter learns to make more complex and dense dreams that will prove more difficult to decode in their symbolic imagery. This as a defense mechanism 'against' the invasiveness of the interpreter, the therapist.

Dreams share a lot of grounds with the arts (painting, photography, theater, music, and film); we could see dreams as a trans-disciplinary work of art generated by our dream knitter. This, besides meaning we all have a very creative artist living at the core of our mind, it also means that we have a subjective approach to the meaning of our (and others) dreams.

There is a strong tradition of matching symbol to specific meaning, that is, if you dream of red, it means violence, because red is the color of anger, blood, war, etc. ; or if you dream with a butterfly it would mean death and rebirth, or... an infinity of possibilities. We have worlds of books, and dream dictionaries that give us pre established meanings for interpretation and dream decoding.

I am being trained as an art therapist, and the school i attend to has a strong position on the ethics of interpretation. I feel like sharing it here as an example that applies, i think, to the world of dreams.

The core of this program is to eliminate the interpretative role of the therapist.

In front of a work of art, and/or an aesthetic experience, the patient, instead of  being a passive receiver of the therapist interpretative 'powers', is responsible of the meaning of his work of art. The encounter is based on an equal ground, in which the therapist works as an interrogator and the patient is the one providing the grounds for a collective and shared interpretation. The work of art, then become the meeting place of two minds, one is guiding with some questions, and the other is resonating with it's own subconscious. This is precious. This means that symbols are flexible and their meanings vary depending on the mind that produces them, and that red might mean violence to someone, passion to another, the color of a childhood pajamas to another, bringing the meaning of nostalgia to this particular red, or the color of the flowers given by a lover to someone else. We are all so particular. And ,the beauty of art, and of dreams, is that they make evident the singularity and richness of each human being.

Why have i taken such a long road to approach this question? Well, i think is a great opportunity to address the subject of interpretation. One that is at the core of the astrology practice.

An astrology reading is an encounter around a symbolic language. The traditional approach of the astrologer making interpretations and the client being the passive receiver of hi/her life's meanings is long and slowly being transformed into a creative encounter in which the astrologer is a guiding force that can lead the way of a person into the world of his/her chart, that is to help the client to navigate it's own path by learning and knowing a bit more about him/herself. There is an empowerment here not present in the one sided interpreter's role.

So, about this dreams with cats and Cressida. Is there a connection between your dream and astrology?

Well, yes. Cressida is one of Uranus ten moons. Take a look: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cressida_(moon)

So that is interesting, no?

Taking your question as a ground for work (I had pet dogs as a child, but never any cats) cats seem to be something new for you, right? Something not so close in your field of experience.

And, it interesting that one of the meanings of Uranus is 'the new'. It is a planet associated with the breaking of the old: old patterns, old thoughts, old self, so we can grow, and evolve.

What is the new for you? What is the old? Could you make a list of both?

And, what do you think your dream knitter is trying to tell you by means of a cat pointing at a tiny Moon in the universe; a Moon that satelites (is this a verb?) Uranus, one of the big players in astrology. If using Freud's premise that the first dream exposed is full of keys, my take is that this dream has rich meanings hidden for you.

The new has a sense of mystery to it.  The unknown can be scary, exciting... there is something about black cats and the collective meaning they have accumulated in our symbolic language that is often associated with mystery, to say the least. I have observed cats for many years and i can say, for me, they represent grace, elegance, independence, wisdom, attachment, and yes they have a sense of royalty that comes from something connected with 'something else', something magical.

What associations come to your mind when you think of a cat? and a black cat? What feelings and emotions are connected to this ideas and perceptions you have accumulated about these animals? Make a list. Let it rest, and breath, and come back to it, let it grow.

It is interesting that Uranus is associated with the higher mind. A mind able to grasp scientifically some of the most elusive and abstract aspects of reality. It is connected with insight and intuition. How would you connect your ideas about cats and this meaning associated with Uranus? And, i keep asking, what associations can you come up with when you think of  'Uranus Moons'?

Then, another thing that come to mind: the idea of dreaming with animals. There is so much said about the instinctual nature of the animal versus the rational mind of humans. What does the idea of instinct brings up to you? If you could locate instinct in some part of your body, where would it be? 

I feel there are enough questions here for you to start knitting some meanings back to yourself. The idea of making lists for each element of the dream is very helpful. Once you have the lists, work on them over a period of time. For example, i wrote for cat, independence and wisdom. To go further in this exploration, i would then make a list of associations connected with these words that i choose from my list. Maybe for wisdom i could start a list of people that are wise for me... follow me?

I invite you to journey your dream, and to share the process here with us. Dig and explore a bit, bring it here, and we can work together.

I took a look at your chart just to see where was your natal Uranus in it. I want to add to your exploration the concept of healing. I venture to think this dream has a healing quality to it, and that you had the insight to bring it here, at the forum, because your felt on a deep level that there is an important meaning for you. You have Uranus in the eighth house in opposition to Chiron (the healer); your natal Uranus is in Libra, and you have Venus in the 12th house (the subconscious), so yes, i think that a trigger from the deeper levels of your chart has manifested.

Thanks again for sharing!

Sincerely

Paloma
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