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 21 
 on: March 16, 2008, 06:56:07 AM 
Started by deirdre - Last post by deirdre
A reader writes in:
I have recently discovered that my partner has a Saturn square Sun aspect which is aspected to my Moon. My understanding is that this is not good! Could you shed some light on this please, particulary if this kinda thing is an indicator of an aspect with potential problems strong enough to break up a relationship (hypothetically of course). My partner will go through Saturn Returns in approx two years time (we got together seriously during mine) and I have fears this could be the time for change? Any assistance with what this means or how problems caused by this aspect could be helped would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks,
Cap Moon
My moon, Capricorn 17 degrees 8th house,
My partner's sun, Capricorn 18 degrees 4th house,
My partner's Saturn, Libra 22 degrees 12th house


Response:
Dear Cap Moon,
With the skeleton of information you gave me I made a diagram starting with your boyfriend's Saturn in the 12th, and then went to his Capricorn Sun in the 4th house. Then I added in your Cap Moon, just one degree away from your honey's. That was all the information you gave me, and that is helpful, because it shows how you are looking at your charts -- with trepidation! If I just look at a chart with only Saturn and the Sun and Moon both in Capricorn, I get very very serious and start to get scared, but that is not the whole picture at all!!!! It's a little like not going to the grocery store because there could be a pick-pocket and deciding to stay home and die of starvation.

As people interested in astrology, we do ourselves a favor by looking at our own charts with compassion love and joy for our futures. As astrologers, it is my opinion we have to commit to that or else sink into a puddle of fear. Especially with a focus on Saturn as it is the ruler of your Moon, I hereby restrict you to the emotion of love while you read any chart, especially your own.

You mention you got together during your Saturn Return, this means he is mighty important to you. Both of you have important personal planets in Capricorn contacting his Saturn. You can focus on the fear if you like, but I may add, Saturn connections, no matter what, they add longevity and seriousness.

As I made the diagram of the Saturn and your Capricorn Moon and his Capricorn Sun, the phrase came into my mind, "The only thing to fear is fear itself". And as I was drawing, one thing led to another and I kept on drawing and surprisingly enough, an oven mitt appeared before my eyes. I thought aha, this is protective so Ms. Cap Moon does not have to burn her hand on the Oven of Fear. Now, in honor of you, their exhists something called "The Mitt of Courage" which comes with a handy life saving ring to hang onto. To see "The Mitt of Courage", click here. http://tinyurl.com/2su469

Whenever you find yourself getting afraid of your boyfriend's Saturn, make a nice souffl

 22 
 on: March 15, 2008, 06:40:49 AM 
Started by deirdre - Last post by deirdre
Question:
Dear Deirdre,
My brother and his wife just had a baby girl and we would love you to do her astrological chart.
Thanks in advance,
Paul

Response:
Dear Paul,
What an ambitious little girl, into everything. She has a chart with many houses activated, not just focusing in on one area. As a baby she love all kinds stimulation and I think as a kid she'll be interested in all kinds of clubs and have different hobbies. With Venus at the crown of her chart in leo in the 10th house, she maybe attracted to  something artistic or she may appear on stage or model. With Jupiter, Vesta and Pluto in the second house, she has a LOT of self confidence -- she knows one of her greatest strengths is making people laugh, and she'll love laughing too.

As a Scorpio rising, she might be hard for people to figure out. She may appear peaceful but she'll always be observing, taking in every detail. She may carefully at people read their body language, look in their eyes and she'll know what's going on. Her ancient and modern chart rulers stand in opposition to each other, softened on both sides by Venus and Moon. She will attract pwerful opponents in her life, and she may use these encounters to further her self esteem and personal development. She will be a good judge of character, will not let herself be taken advantage of.

She'll be very ambitious, even as a baby, she'll want to roll over, say full sentences and run, but you can remind her to stop and smell the flowers.

Do not insult her unless you want to receive her wrath, she will staunchly defend herself, almost by saying nothing, just with her energy. She has a strong strong strong will and looking at the contact between Sun andn Mars, she will never be fat.

With Saturn in the 10th house, when she is older she may be afraid that she won't reach the career she wants or she may often think she will be fired, but the truth is, she will be irreplaceable and she will always get promoted. She'll keep going up the ladder and will be motivated by fear that she could lose her job. She most likely never will but for this reason she will have a lot of back up plans.

She may experience her Dad as a very careful, sun trine chiron, pleasant (sun in Libra) casual man and a bit eccentric (sun in the 11th house. She will love his gentle soothing comfort and words. She will passionately love cooking with her mother, Moon at 29 Aries, dressing nicely, being in lovely restaurants and eating foods she loves. When she cooks at home she may want to clean afterward with vigor, Moon in Aries in the 6th house.

She will love bright deep brilliant colors and large precious jewels, this is the combination of Scorpio rising and And Venus in Leo trine Pluto. She will have a very soft spot for the people she loves, Venus opposed chiron and Neptune.
As a Scorpio rising  with the Mars Pluto opposition, she will always know what she wants, and she'll go after it fast furiously and forever.

Welcoming your new niece to the Planet, Yours, Deirdre

 23 
 on: March 15, 2008, 06:20:17 AM 
Started by deirdre - Last post by deirdre
Question:
Dear Deirdre,
A friend of mine's husband just left her out of the blue after 17 years. What can I tell my friend to calm her down? She is not sleeping or anything.
Yours,
Taurus-Who-Loves-Her-Friends

Response:

Dear Taurus-Who-Loves-Her-Friends,
This couple is being deeply effected by the powerful eclipses on the Leo-Aquarius axis. He is a Leo. She is an Aquarius. They can be sure that any changes happening from now until August 2009 will be aligning them with their ultimate purposes. The biggest question for both of them is: what have they been ignoring at the price of maintaining the status quo? That is the issue.

I have taken a good hard look at your girlfriend the Aquarius' chart. I think there is a good chance she has moon in Pisces, which means I think she is born sometime after 3:03pm. I think this last Lunar Eclipse in Virgo opposed her Moon in Pisces creating movement which feels like a crisis. In her chart, there is no other sign of the turmoil she is in. In fact this year is not about being broken hearted at all. 2008 is a year for seeing life as it is

 24 
 on: March 09, 2008, 01:45:45 PM 
Started by deirdre - Last post by deirdre
Question
Hi Deirdre,
For me it is time now to leave this apartment. We didn't move last year as you saw in in my stars but it took time to find a buyer and now we found somebody. I found an apartment not too far from the school but not as nice and big as here. So I am dreading the move and I could cry the whole day but as I have kids I always have to play to be strong...
I am with a guy who is not really there to support me as I need it. He has so many circumstances to manage in his life it seems to me. It is hard for me to accept it and to handle it. It hurts a lot and I don t know if I should end this relationship . But I also have so many good times with him which helps me to switch out of the daily routine and really have at least some days of relaxation. Or am I just being negative and seeing things dramatically?
The financial and career situation is a disaster. Well, as you see, I am a Leo full of doubts and fears about what will come next. Is this year going to be calmer?
Yours Truly,
Leo Without a Rest


Response:
Dear Leo Without a Rest,
2008 is a transition year for really almost everybody -- there have been major shifts, the kinds of changes that you and I and our friends in our lifetimes have never felt before.
There were some eclipses recently that have had a powerful effect on you. This last one which was on February 21 brought in a lot of energy for you to honor and tend to yourself

 25 
 on: March 07, 2008, 07:19:05 AM 
Started by deirdre - Last post by deirdre
Question:
I am writing in regards to the "indigo children" theory.  I've been researching and reading for days and truly feel I may be an indigo.  I've always felt I have a "purpose" here on Earth that I could never completely grasp, I am overwhelmingly sensitive, to other people as well as sound, smell, sight, etc.  I am left handed, extremely intelligent, musically in tune.  While I feel I know the answer myself, I do not wish to "label" myself and I wish to seek some sort of guidance or help in my transition into my awakening.  All I have read has told me not to be scared, but all of this information has been a lot to take in.  I've always KNOWN that I am different from most people... and I feel that I finally understand why. I look forward to making a difference in this world, however I feel that I am my own worst enemy in many ways.  My physical and emotional worlds tend to get the best of me and I would GREATLY appreciate some feedback regarding my spiritual awakening and the process to becoming an enlightened person. -- L is for Leo

Answer:
Dear L is for Leo,

Regarding Indigo, here is a link to more info on Indigo from Planet Waves:

http://www.planetwaves.net/contents/astrology_indigo_children.html

I also really like what Doreen Virtue has to say about Indigos, too, but what I explain best is the astrology, and why this is causing you to write here, so I'm going to stick to the astrology.

I imagine you are very curious about your spiritual awakening because it seems so out of reach. So when I opened your chart I looked for something that would scream yet be hidden. Intuitively, this felt like Chiron, so I darted around your chart looking for Chiron and found it with the North Node intercepted in the 11th house. This is quite a magnet pull. Meanwhile, all of your personal planets are below the horizon, while Chiron and North Node are placed high in your chart. The sign Gemini is intercepted in the 11th house. Intercepted means all of one sign is compressed in a house with two different signs on the cusps. An intercepted sign is sometimes hard to sense, like a book without a cover, it takes some focus to get oriented to the nature of an intercepted house. Luckily, astrology can help. Chiron is also hard to sense, but you felt it and that is why you wrote in, it seems from raw impulse.

My impression is it will take a few periscopes to stumble upon the treasure chest on your path. It's almost like you were born and raised on a submarine and have read about or heard of something called the surface of the water, where boats and other forms of transportation can take you to something called land and air.

As a Leo, you are always the star of the submarine! But there are maximum a thousand people on the largest submarines. There is a lot more going on than meets the eye somewhere else. To get a sense of the magic which is possible, you can set up a few mirrors in your living space so you can see around corners and see if you see out of your interior world in a new way.

You asked about your process and I think it goes like this starting from the future and working toward the present: you may ultimately want to share your talents with the world. This is Chiron in Gemini in the 11th. I get the feeling you want to know what is your gift to share with your tribe. In Gemini, it looks like something with communication, maybe something with siblings or people who feel like siblings. Look for these people in the mirrors.

Then for the next step backwards, we look at Mercury because it is the ruler of Gemini, which is in Virgo in the second house. Mercury is also about communication and so is Virgo, so it could be that you want to write or even already love writing. Because there is a connection to Chiron, I wonder if there is some random shame you might be carrying around. Mercury is the ruler of Virgo too, so this is the end dispositor, like the end of the bus line, or a ferry line. You may wash up at a ferry stop with a few pencils and a notebook but that's thats about it, you need more! Another way out of the submarine is to write and talk your way out. Do this with "brother and sisters" you find reflected in the periscope mirrors.

To get more information to empower you on your way, we look back up at Chiron. There is a line shooting down from it, like a rope dangling from a crazy technical helicopter with University of Wild Acts written in hologram letters all over it. Holding on to this line leads to Uranus in Sagittarius in the 5th house. If you feel you are the good one who doesn't want to rebel, this is an important sign. Because of the way the mirrors are set up with a new perspective, you have found something kind of wild, something or someone which you know a bunch of other people think might is a lot of hogwash, a waste of time, purposeless, CRAZY. Jump there! I say this because there is something to talk about and write about there, and this is going to be good for your self esteem!

These are examples of ways to eject your way out of the submarine, see whats going on out there so you can let your firey sun shine reach out to find a larger audience. Talk with your brothers and sisters. This is just a starting point -- see where it goes from here.

 26 
 on: March 05, 2008, 01:19:32 PM 
Started by deirdre - Last post by deirdre
It is lonely at the top, that is sure. Not many people fit up there. Mountains are pointy and small at the top, wider and wider as you descend. Lots of people fit down in the valley, in the low country where it's flat, not all that special and peoples' feet are grounded closer to sea level. It's lonely to work late and miss a yoga class, or become a boss and not eat at the same table in the cafeteria. It's also very lonely to work so hard to pay the mortgage but not be able to spend time with the family. It's also lonely to work so hard to afford a fancy something so you feel comfortable in public. It feels lonely to be disconnected from neighbors and friends and family.

Any way you cut it -- traditional, esoteric, ancient or modern, -- the ruler of Capricorn is just always Saturn which in its highest expression is even more spiritual than the 12th house. Saturn is also time. Loneliness would mean a Saturn imbalance, a time imbalance, the proportion of time feeling connected to people is less than the amount of time feeling meaningful connection to people leading to a spiritually disconnect. So what do you do?

Well, you like to work, right? What are you good at? Are you good at using computers? Do you know how to repair cars? Volunteer time somewhere to people who have serious issues going on which prevent them from earning money. Teach someone at a shelter how to use the program Word. Teach an older person how to write an email. Repair the van of a soup kitchen, or a center for abuse, for example. You might know of someone in your building or on your street who is bed ridden and they need someone to go to the store and get them some bananas toothpaste or toilet paper.

This gets you out with a new purpose, opens up your world, changes your patterns and shifts the ground you walk upon. Have fun!

 27 
 on: August 28, 2007, 06:46:17 AM 
Started by deirdre - Last post by deirdre
Question: Just a quickie, so to speak. August 28th

 28 
 on: August 15, 2007, 01:39:18 PM 
Started by paloma - Last post by paloma
Hello dear,

Thank you for this long and thoughtful reply. I will do my best to answer your question.

There are a couple of transits in your chart that might be moving all this energy you are expressing. Usually transits are great activation tools. These energy movers have a task: that is, to awaken us to deeper inner realities; to teach us the way to know ourselves better; to move the limitations that operate as obstacles to our evolution so we can have a more fulfilling life, a more creative and true-to-ourselves existence. Transits are not good nor bad. They are simply messengers and teachers. How ready and willing we are to listen to the message, to accept the lesson, will make the process either difficult, challenging, fun, and/or complicated. The more resistance we have to change and to self questioning the more 'painful' the transit might be. How do we make this process work for us? With awareness. By being conscious of our processes of change, and by accepting we do need to change, we open the door to something new. Often we are moved (or stuck) by the fear of the new; we would rather stay in the comfort zone of the known, instead of jumping out of repetition. The key to a fulfilling and creative life lies in the jump, in the ability to let go of something from the past, that hold us, preventing the experience of the new. The key here, is that the new is a part of us. Most of the time what we fear is the unknown in ourselves.

When i read your words in can feel the movement of the new coming from you. The awareness of your words, and your self questioning are, at this moment of your life, your tools and allies. If you listen long enough, you will find your ways.

When i first looked at your chart, the transit that first called my attention was Neptune sitting on your natal Moon. Today it is exact to the degree. This transit started in february 2007, and will continue to influence you until January 2008. As any transit involving outer planets, the experience feels big, transcendental, and overwhelming. The inner planet transits have an influence on our immediate and conscious reality, but with the outer planets we are in another realm, one that connects us with something larger than ourselves. Mysterious, overwhelming, fated, heavy, are some of the words that come to my mind.

With a Neptune transit we might add the word Confusing to the mix, yes, with capital letter, as we are talking about a transcendental confusion.

This transits points to a major change in your emotional and psychic l life. I think that through confusion and the blurring of your emotional self knowledge, Neptune is, in the long run, asking you to redefine and to become more aware of your emotional needs and emotional responses. It is through the absence of definition (a process that can feel quite chaotic and disturbing, as if the ground was lifted from under us) that we learn to redefine ourselves and our realities. To put it in another way, we might need chaos as a way of transforming the way we have ordered our world. We might need dissolution as a path to find new and more creative solutions. We might need to get lost without a clear vision or focus, to be able to recognize the possibility of new paths.

The Moon rules our subconscious mind, and with this transit, most of the confusion we experience comes from this hidden and mysterious part of our psyche. Neptune is far from the Sun, close to the edge of our galaxy. This work as a great metaphor; the Sun is our consciousness, and Neptune activates the Moon, the unconscious- the deep edge within ourselves. This is a process that cannot be reduced to rational considerations. Deep buried emotions come to the surface in a confused web of information that needs time and discernment to be digested. This information might be misinterpret and/or it might projected on the outside world.

All this is happening in the fifth house of your horoscope, adding context to this process.  From the fifth to the eighth we are in the relationship sector of the chart. A place where we step out of our self reflection to interact with 'the other'. The fifth house is the place where we first meet the other. It has a childlike quality that can be translated as wonder, playfulness, creativity, love and, yes, sex. It is the house of all that we enjoy doing, where we find pleasure, and by doing so, we find ourselves.

I feel this transit brings a deep need of merging, of swimming deeply in the vastness of love and pleasure, and i think that the only place this can be found is out of fantasy and idealization, and in the real. How do we get real? How do break the spells (misconceptions about ourselves, ambiguity about our desires, escapism, programmed ways of doing and feeling, resistances...etc.) that come from our subconscious mind; how do we open our eyes; how do get ride of our pink color glasses and instead of dreaming about our needs, we experience their fulfillment?

These are long life questions, but there is a way to make it happen, to make it work without getting lost in the foggy Neptune lesson. This is by feeling our body. The Moon rules the body. With such a strong fifth house my suggestion is art oriented. I think you have a great expressive outlet that would be an excellent tool for you. Art has the quality of bringing us into the here and now. Dancing, chanting, painting are excellent ways of channeling the Neptune creativity into a concrete experience, a body experience. Art makes the invisible, visible. If you work on your creativity, you will be using and getting in touch with deep creative energies that are strongly connected with your sexuality. You don't have to be an artist to do art, you don't have to be a dancer to move your body. I invite you to explore your body, to feel inside your body, and to listen to your  body.

Your natal Moon is in Aquarius, a clever, mental sign. This is a Moon that needs a lot of stimulus. It is very creative, original, inventive. It's a Moon that needs friendship, collaboration, groups, networks. All this is an excellent setting to develop an alternative creative activity; one that will nurture you. This will bring much satisfaction to your life, taking some stress off your relationship. 

Another important transit that might have been influencing this period of your life is Pluto squaring your Ascendant. This influence started at the end of December 2006 and will last until October 2008. As with any of the slow outer planets transits, the first stages of the period feels more intense and stressing, and, as the energy evolves, we start to assimilate the change, and to grow within the lesson. From your writing, i gather that you are entering the acceptance phase, which is the one that will allow you to work with the transit, instead of resisting it.

Pluto square the Ascendant is about relationships, especially close ones, especially the one with your partner. Many invisible patterns might come into the surface during this transit. The unseen and the unsaid come out. Conflicts, wounds, power trips, control needs, irrational behavior, hidden desires, fears, possessiveness, feelings of weakness, guilt, repression, manipulations, jealousy, all these might be part of the picture. These are heavy to handle energies, and as you can see, they are strongly connected with the unconscious world. It seems to me that a lot of clearing is happening in your relationship, and as i said before, the key to Pluto is to allow the change to happen. For this we need to surrender and to let go of anything we might think we needed. The key is not to take our needs for granted, as change and transformation might show us that they were simple defense mechanisms, and limitations to our Soul's growth. Pluto asks us to take care of our Soul's needs, and in order to do this we have to let go of the control we think we might have.

The shadow can be frightening, but what we need to ask is what is hidden there, in the shadows? What is trying to express itself?

My opinion is that we usually will find a wound deeply hidden in our unconscious, a wound that have been neglected and has grown into repressed and distorted presence in our psyche. As a young woman that you are, i strongly suggest you start working on your shadow. You'll find that by being able to cross through this zone of your Self, your will be freeing a lot of creative power, a lot of energy that needs expression. Pluto teaches us that our power is waiting for us right behind the shadows; if not accepted it can be disruptive, if not destructive. It is a journey.

You are soon entering your Saturn Return, an important transit that will bring structure to this process. You are becoming a woman and you are being invited by these teachers to mature, to live behind behaviors that are close to childhood and parental influence, to enter the realm of adulthood. Your natal Saturn is in the twelfth house. It seems to me that you will have the opportunity to dig into some of your past, into your family history, into your early memories to find some clues on what needs to be recognize and release. You already stared.

My take is this is strongly associated to your father. If in some way your father has been absent, or there has been a lack of commitment, or a conflicting relationship, you will be invited to heal this through consciously seen how this early bond (or the lack of it) is influencing your life in the present. Regarding this, there is a very good book that i strongly suggest you read. 'The Wounded Woman (how to heal the relationship father-daughter)', written by Linda Schierse Leonard. She is a Junguian analyst who specializes in the Feminine.

The twelfth house is associated with prenatal information. It is interesting that you are already digging into the past to find some answers connected to what is happening in the present. Prenatal traumas, and, for that matter, all memories that happen before we learn to speak are very difficult to contact and to release. This is not something that we can access through words and rationalization, nor something that can be worked out on a conventional therapy. The healing process needs to happen on the unconscious and body level. Your chart points to a powerful mind, and an immense capacity to understand and assimilate difficult information. You have a very strong Scorpio signature in your chart (Venus, Sun and Uranus in conjunction), and your Pluto is in trine to your Moon. You do not fear the depths. The thing is where to take the swim. From your chart i get a sense that there is an inner struggle between your emotions and your mind, and this reinforces my previous suggestion to you : body work. Here, i add the possibility of you working on some alternative therapies that work with breathing (rebirthing, for example); or therapies where you get in contact with your cellular memory (Ericksonian hipnosis, for example).

Before i close this long reply, i'd like give you my personal answer to these questions: 

How can you follow the call of the wild when you are with one person? Someone you absolutely want to be with?

What first comes to my mind is 'it takes two to tango'. So, yes the wild can be part of a relationship, if shared on the same ground. I personally do not see the wild as only being something that involves other relationships. I believe two persons can share 'the wild'. This has to do with, first, what is our personal definition of 'the wild', and two, limits.

I associate wild with freedom. I honor my wild side by being true to my self and my desires; then i make the necessary choices based on the limits i choose to respect. I might choose a monogamous relationship that puts limits to a more open sexual and love life, but that allows me to experience the deep levels of intimacy that two persons can share. I might then choose to channel my needs of diversity through other expressive channels. I might have a lots of friends, that i do not share with my partner, that give me a sense of freedom and individuality; just to give you an example.

In another context i might need to experience the openness and then change the limits of the relationships. I would then need to take into account my partner's needs and see if they fit with mine, if not then, i am confronted with new choices. The key here, is that relationships are not static, they can move, evolve, grow, change. This is all so relative and personal!

Can you reconcile being true to yourself and being in a relationship? There must be a way!

I have very few duties imposed on myself. I personally move in a mutable existence in which i have learned to honor change, but, i do respect one powerful duty: to be true to myself, no matter what, and ESPECIALLY in my relationships. This questions for me is the chore of the work you are doing with Pluto. If you can't be true to yourself with 'the other', you might need to reconsider the relationship. You might need to voice these questions out, and open the door for change. The being-true-to-oneself process entails taking conscious account of the lies and masks we have accumulated; how we have mold ourselves into being someone else so we are loved and accepted. This is a tricky transaction that has more costs than benefits in the long run. Again, Pluto squaring the ascendant is putting pressure here, as the ascendant rules the role we assume. Take a look at the thread about Pluto crossing the ascendant, and you might get a picture.

I hope this has been helpful, and that you can gather some clues and tools to move on in this new territory. I thank you again for you generous contribution to this space. Your story, is everybody's, and i am sure many persons benefit from this exchange.

Please let us know is any of this rings a bell,

I wish you the best,

Sincerely

Paloma

 29 
 on: August 15, 2007, 01:37:53 PM 
Started by paloma - Last post by paloma
Here is the answer from M:

Hello, thanks so much for your reply and for the thought you'd given to what I wrote. This is probably always the case, but as soon as I'd written the email I felt something lift, so you're right even just voicing things makes them feel better. I've thought about the questions you asked, and tried to answer them so here goes...

When you were talking about fear, I feel like I'm carrying round some strange unidentifiable fear of something related to sex. Its very hard to put in words because its deeply buried, but has also always been with me. Its nothing to do with my lovely boyfriend, he's just the one its playing out with (ive felt this in all my relationships), and I think it's because I feel so secure with him that this is coming to light. I recently found out I was concieved during a time when my mother and father werent speaking, and there was a lot of anger and simmering feeling, for months before and after. Also growing up bodies, sex,and anything like that was embarrassing and 'not good', and looking at it now I guess I can see that I certainly wasn't encouraged to feel proud or even acknoweldge that side of me. I dont know if that would have anything to do with it - I'm a great believer in you make your own life so don't want to pin this on someone else. The best way to describe this fear is heavy and very sad. I try and live my life light and carefree because it feels good, and this isn't carefree and light. But like I said just writing to you shifted things and I've moved out of it alot. I really think you get more of what you focus on, so I just stopped feeling it and remembered other feelings I've had - light happy ones, and got in that space, and things feel much better now. I know that's not addressing this issue, but it puts me in a much more good-feeling place to sort it out.

The communication thing actually started to solve itself too, - and yes I can see that they are connected, and relfect eachother. Were able to talk more honesly without this toxic wall coming down. This made me feel much better again. It feels like the toxicness has evaporated. Its like cement which is poured over you and sets, now theres a way to dissolve it. For all this talk of lightness though I'm a water sign and I feel like 'm not giving the emotion side of me (which is huge) a proper airing or letting it see the light of day. My boyfriend and I don't really operate on the emotional level, although I know he cares about me and loves me alot, and vice versa. I know I've got to find a way to bring it out, and I will. Its all choices I've made, so I can make new ones.

The thing you said about Venus and courtly love really jumped out. I used to not like romance and think it was phoney, but my boyfriend has a touch of the libras so I became confined I guess by this notion of romantic femaless - self inflicted though because I know I try and morph into what I think is wanted. But recently I've been acknowledging the other side so to speak and it feels good, and has helped lighten things up again. I guess its about being true to yourself which I wasn't always.

When you talked about the moon and the body it immediately made me think of my own, and for some odd reason I thought "Well I feel wounded, obviously". In the past I've stayed with boyfriends when I wanted it to be over, and buried my feelings. I think this has got something to do with it, not sure what.

Finally pluto and keeping things growing and alive - well thats what I aspire to, but recently I've really been wondering how you reconcile freedom (which is great and keeps people alive) and relationships/marriage. I know Eric's take on open, honest relationships, but I can't see how that would actually work in real life, especially if you don't enter into it like that at the start. It seems to be marriage is often the beginning of the end, with the woman frustrated and sacrificing parts of herself. How can you follow the call of the wild when you are with one person? Someone you absolutely want to be with? Can you reconcile being true to yourself and being in a relationship? There must be a way! (I'm going to read that book you suggested on the train home).

I would love to know if there's anything in my chart that might be encouraging these ways of acting/thinking/feeling that feel ingrained, and know how to overcome them. I want to feel free and powerful and peaceful - in the nicest possible way! Thanks again for your really helpful reply, I really appreciate you thinking about this and sharing your ideas (and wisdom!) with me.

PS if you reply to this, would it be possible not to publish my chart even if you talk about what's in it? Sorry for the secretiveness. And sorry this email is so long and 'me me me'.

Have a lovely weekend x

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 on: August 13, 2007, 09:09:42 AM 
Started by paloma - Last post by paloma
Hello Rich,

Some astrologers will cast a horary chart for and before a consultation.

A horary chart is a chart based on an event, or a question in particular. For example, 'is June a good date to marry my boyfriend'? 'Will i be promoted in the next year'? 'Will my cat come back home'? The chart is casted for the time the question was/is formulated to the astrologer, and he/she will be able to look at the chart and, as in an oracle, get the picture surrounding the question asked.

The question is ruled by the ascendant, the matter of the question is found in the house that rules the question (if marriage the 7th, if promotion the 10th, if pet, the 6th, for example). One has to look at the ruler of the question, it's aspects and locations; plus, and especially the Moon; is the Moon favorable to the matter of the question is the Moon growing, new, full? etc.

This system is pretty old. Imagine the days when the astrologer was in a battle field and was called before a battle by the king; he would ask how the battle would go, and the astrologer would look at the sky and draw the position of the planets on the ground, and would say what was written in the stars.

So, some astrologers will cast a chart for the moment a client is having a reading. Why? What is the purpose of this practice?

Barbara Hand, in her book, 'Chiron: Rainbow Bridge Between the Inner and Outer Planets' advices the use of this practice to measure the level of receptivity the client will bring to the reading; that is, how deep, healing, transforming, useful, conflicting, the meeting of the client and his/her chart can be. It's a good way of establishing a responsible ground for the astrologer's work and message to the client.

So, to answer your question, i can't say it is karma playing it's part, but i can assure you there is a chart of the reading, as there is a chart for every second of the infinite time of the universe. The stars are always working.  And if there is chart for the reading, there is a story.

I hope this was useful to you.

Sincerely,

Paloma


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